Lately, I’ve found myself craving calm in a way I never used to. Not the kind that comes from a week off or a wellness retreat (although those sound lovely) - but the kind you create in your own home, in the quiet moments between everything else.
Running a business, juggling everyday life, trying to stay present - it can all feel like too much. So I started paying attention to what made me feel calm. A slow shower with no rushing. Coffee outside, wrapped in a duvet. Reading at night with a candle burning nearby. Tiny rituals that make the day feel softer.
This blog isn’t about doing more. It’s about noticing what already brings you peace and making space for it. It’s about how I’ve been learning to romanticise the ordinary - and how you can too.
Let’s talk about the art of creating calm, even when life isn’t.
What Is the Art of Creating Calm?
The art of creating calm lies in awareness and choice. It’s about responding rather than reacting, slowing down enough to choose your energy, your next step, your thoughts.
It’s not about never feeling stress or overwhelm - it’s about meeting those feelings with tools and rituals that soften their edges.
The most effective way of creating calm is to embrace the everday. Being present in each moment, even the most mundane.
The Benefits of Calm for Your Mind and Body
Calm isn’t just a nice-to-have feeling. It changes your body chemistry:
Increases serotonin and dopamine (hello, better mood)
According to the American Psychological Association, regularly engaging in calming activities—like deep breathing, journaling, or walking in nature—can significantly reduce anxiety and improve resilience.
Creating Calm is powerful. And it’s available to you, today.
How to Become a Calm Person in Life
Becoming a calm person isn’t about personality- it’s about practice. Here’s how to start:
Observe, don’t absorb : Start noticing your reactions. Pause before responding.
Daily rituals : Introduce calming anchors in your routine - your morning coffee outside, a walk at lunch, a candle-lit evening.
Create boundaries : Protect your peace. Limit doomscrolling, overcommitting, or rushing.
Practice nervous system regulation : Breathwork, journaling, or cold showers can help reset your state.
Reframe your thoughts : Creating Calm often comes from perception. Challenge urgency, perfectionism, and overthinking.
What Is the 5-Calming Method?
This is a simple grounding technique often used in mindfulness and therapy. It goes like this:
5 things you can see
4 things you can touch
3 things you can hear
2 things you can smell
1 thing you can taste
It brings you back into your body and the present moment—perfect for when life feels overwhelming.
Can Aromatherapy Make You Calm?
Yes - and there’s science to back it up. Certain essential oils like lavender, bergamot, rose, and frankincense have been shown to lower heart rate and calm the nervous system. Inhaling scent is the fastest way to impact the brain’s limbic system, where emotions and memories are stored.
Lighting an aromatherapy candle, rolling on an essential oil blend, or simply taking three deep breaths of a calming scent can instantly change your inner state. Creating calm doesn't have to be complex.
The Philosophy of Calm
Many traditions across the world celebrate calm as a virtue:
In Stoicism , calm is a by-product of focusing only on what you can control. They believed that peace of mind isn’t found in external outcomes, but in our response to them.
In Eastern philosophy , calm is tied to presence and acceptance. The breath becomes a guide, the body becomes a teacher, and calm arises not by force, but by allowing.
In modern psychology , calm is linked to nervous system regulation and emotional maturity. Practices like breathwork, mindfulness, and co-regulation with others help build this inner resilience.
True calm isn’t the absence of chaos - it’s the inner stability that stays rooted no matter the storm.
"I was asked what I believe is the art of creating calm. For me, it's always been about acceptence & presence. Acceptence in life, being open to the very fact it isn't perfect. Life will be chaotic at times, and it's unrealistic to set the expectation that it won't be. When you set these expectations, you automatically become focused on them instead of being present. I like to allow myself small moments of calm throughout my day, simply by being present in that moment. For example, drinking my morning coffee outside in the garden, just being. Hearing the birds, looking at the glow of the morning sun reflecting off the grass, savouring the taste of my morning beverage. This for me is what creating calm is."
How to Bring Calm into a Daily Routine
You don’t need to overhaul your life. You need to romanticise the small moments you already have. Here are some simple rituals that create a sense of calm:
Mornings without rushing : A shower with no to-do list in mind, slow coffee wrapped in a duvet by the back door.
Digital-free meals : Eating breakfast mindfully with no screens.
Creative play : Sitting on the floor and adding to a moodboard with soft music on.
Evening rituals : Reading in bed by candlelight, cooking something simple with a favourite podcast.
Nature breaks : Working outdoors in the grass, watching the breeze move through trees.
These are the moments your nervous system thanks you for.
This is calm.
It’s not an escape from your life - it’s an invitation to truly live it. With presence, with softness, with beauty.
You don’t need to change everything. Just notice what already brings you calm, and build your rituals around that. That’s the art of creating calm in the everyday.
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